|Emotional eaters don't like to |
reveal their shameful secret!
- 1 Corinthians 10:13
A few years ago, I was working a full-time job. I was promoted into a position that was created "just for me" (their words, not mine) and was just sort of left hanging. The lack of training caused me to feel some additional stress. At that time, I was an emotional eater and eating junk food was my way of coping with stress. I don't recommend it! One February 14th, after an extremely harsh meeting, I bought some very unhealthy Valentine cookies from a bakery across the street from the office. I took them back to work and hid them in my desk drawer. Eating junk food at my desk was not something I liked to advertise. Emotional eaters don't like to reveal their shameful secret!
A co-worker happened to walk by as I was binge eating. She gently reminded me, "Linda, this was a bad day, not a bad life. Don't take what happened in that meeting personally. It was just business, that's all. Nobody hates you personally." I handed the cookies to my co-worker and said, "Here, please throw these away!" That's when it hit me - I needed to cope with stress in a better way. I was not hurting them - but I was killing myself!
We get to choose every single day how we will cope with the stresses of everyday life. We can stuff our faces with junk food (so-called "comfort food"), or we can face our challenges head on and make some positive changes and make the world a better place for ourselves. I choose the latter - every day!
Take back your power!
For one thing, I don't just sit idly by and let circumstances overwhelm me anymore. If I'm in a bad place, I move to a better one - it's as simple as that. If I'm in a work environment and things get bad - I no longer sit quietly by and allow them to get worse. I've finally learned that it is not wrong to speak up for myself and let it be known that I don't know what is expected of me and demand to be given clear instruction. There's nothing worse than trying to figure out what people want from you - and guessing incorrectly. If I'm ever in doubt about what is expected from me these days, I definitely speak up and let people know I don't understand and I need further clarification.
Getting out of your comfort zone is not an altogether bad thing. It hurts to fail, but it hurts even more to be too frightened to get back up and try again.
From the BAD GIFTS FROM HUSBANDS file we repost this oldie but goodie for Valentine's Day.